A BabyWearer, I Am Not

Out of neccessity, I wore my baby for most of our camping trip. She didn’t care for the sand very much, it was cold much of the time and it was the only way she would take naps while we hung out on the beach. This was a new experience for me.

Now, I now that there are a lot of you mama’s out there who live with a baby attached to your body. I know, because you preach it proudly. Some blogs even go so far as to ridicule and insult mama’s who don’t wear their babies. I stay quiet on the subject as a general rule. But here it is, in a nutshell.

I have done all five of my babies the same way – schedules, self soothing, not in my bed and certainly not kangaroo style. I have had only happy results. My kids are all outgoing, well adjusted, secure, happy people. They have slept through the night from 2-8 weeks of age, they have no separation anxiety issues and are thriving.

I don’t enter the debate because, I feel that this is a very personal decision. If you want to sleep with your baby, great. I would rather have a full nights sleep. If you want to wear your baby, go for it. I have back and hip issues that make that very uncomfortable. If you don’t ever let your baby cry, fine. I feel that it is important that baby learn to self soothe. I may not agree with you on which is best, (obviously, I do what I think is best for myself and my babies) but these are not huge issues to me. Parenting is about so much more than that.

I only bring it up now because of this last week. It was the most use my sling has ever seen. I felt like a kangaroo. And it wasn’t all bad. I liked rocking her to sleep, because I don’t really do that very often. I liked knowing where she was and that she was secure, especially in that environment. I can see why some mama’s are so sold on the idea. However, when we got home, and I set her free on the floor, it was so wonderful. I think she was just as relieved as I was. And, when I put her down in her bed for her nap in her own room with her wooly, she snuggled down instantly and fell asleep.

In short, I like the method that I have chosen. Doing something different for a week was interesting, but did not persuade me to change. Although some moments, like this one, were fabulous!

The point I am trying to make is not which is better, or who is the better mama. I don’t care if you wear your babies, sleep with them, or rock them to sleep. (I think you must be awfully tired, or strong, or resiliant!) I don’t feel that I have to convert you to my way, or to say that your way is wrong, or identify myself as a “Babywise Mama”. Why do we have to bicker when it really comes down to style or preference. If my children are thriving and loved, and your children are thriving and loved, then why all the posturing? Can’t we all just get along?

And that is all I have to say about that.

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